Then I thought about why I write at all. A Modest Mouse song says,
“You don’t know where and you don’t know when.
But you still got your words and you got your friends.
Walk along to another day.
Work a little harder, work another way.”
Because when all else fails, when life is tough, when I feel like I’m not making a difference I hear those words. “But you still got your words and you got your friends…work a little harder…”
I want to act like this blog is just for me. That I’m putting all of this time and effort into it so I can have a record for my posterity. That is a part of it. But the other part is this: I want to show people that if someone like me can handle having two kids with special needs- that anyone can handle one child with Down syndrome. I try to be as honest as I can. I want you to see that life can be great even if it’s tough at times. And that my kids, the ones with special needs and the one’s without, are the same in their value and worth to the world. That every child, every person, has worth and can change the world. That life can be great no matter what you are faced with.
I want people to know this because many soon-to-be mothers are facing the choice as to whether or not to keep their baby who has just been diagnosed with Down syndrome. Most of these women (90 percent) abort for a whole host of reasons, but the top two I’ve heard is that they don’t think they can handle it and that they don’t want their child to suffer.
There is a line from a the song Timshell by Mumford and Sons that says:
You have a choice. You may not have a choice as to what life brings, but you have the choice as to how to deal with it. Those who are pregnant have the choice to keep these wonderful children. And the only thing that is going to tip the scales in the favor of having a child with Down syndrome is the knowledge of the joy that comes with it as well as the understanding that you don’t have to be a special person to have a special child. That narrative is false.
Have I not proved that to you yet?
These kids come to MAKE US special. They give us the choice to be great… they are our very ladder to the stars.
Please help me today to reach that woman who is making The Choice. Please help me and ALL of the other people who blog about Down syndrome to change the perception about having a child with Down syndrome (or any other disability, really). Please share our stories. There are fun little “share” buttons below if you want to share my blog. Or, here are some other Blogs that I feel are very share- worthy ( probably even more-so than mine):
These are just SOME of my favorites. There are zillions more that are just as fantastic, I’m sure. One way you can find them is the blog hop over at With A Little Moxie.
And for anyone who thinks that Abby suffers from Down syndrome, I submit to you this video
Please, please share. Show your friends. Show your families. If people know how good life can be, it would really be no choice at all. And that’s the goal.